NO… JUST DIFFICULT BEHAVIOUR
Is someone else’s difficult behaviour impacting on your life, your happiness, even your job satisfaction?
Perhaps you’re struggling with a work colleague: maybe a boss who never seems satisfied with your efforts, or a co-worker who simply isn’t pulling their weight, or who brings difficulties and disruption into the workplace.
Alternately, you may be trying to cope with a troublesome family member, or a friend who is overly demanding.
Whatever the case, someone else’s behaviour is affecting you in ways that you neither need or like.
If you’ve been dealing with this for a while, you instinctively know that it can’t continue. You have a basic right to happiness, and if someone else’s behaviour is negatively affecting that, it’s time to make some changes.
MASTER THE KEY SKILLS & TECHNIQUES
Nobody’s born to be difficult. Actually, it’s not the person that’s difficult, it’s their behaviour. Once you understand this, you’ll stop looking for the elusive reasons why they’re like this, and focus on your own behaviour around them, using your strong personal skills and the techniques you’ll learn here to lessen the impact.
You can’t easily change someone’s difficult behaviour by modifying their views and beliefs. But you can change your response to the situation, and the tools you’ll learn in this program will enable you to modify your relationship to the person who’s behaving badly, so that you’re no longer an easy target.
This program will equip you with the power to control your own feelings and responses to difficult people, and the techniques to mould and shape – some might even say manipulate - each situation you face so that it no longer causes you practical difficulty or emotional distress.
Our motto? ‘First, take care of yourself’.
Session 1 - Active Listening - When faced with difficult behaviour, your natural reaction might be driven by stress chemicals, causing you to fly into confrontational mode. Alternately, you may feel so beaten down that you withdraw silently into your shell. What these primordial responses actually do is to exclude you from the process – you stop listening to what is going on and focus all your energy on dealing with your instincts and feelings. So, the game is lost before it begins. When you adopt a listening stance, you open new, broad communication channels.
Session 2 - Dignity, Face, and Prestige - Your objective in any confrontational exchange is to be the peacemaker, to use your actions to diffuse the situation. The long game here is to adopt a set of responses which will, over time, ultimately render the other persons difficult behaviour pointless. Some people just go looking for a fight, and some difficult people simply crave a response in order to contextualise the way they feel. They don’t even know they’re doing it. Once their difficult behaviour stops delivering the result they want or crave, they inevitably modify themselves around you. Once you stop indulging their misbehaviour, they have to find a new way of getting what they want from you, by coming round to your way of seeing things.
Session 3 - Setting Boundaries - Once you define the limits of what is and isn’t acceptable to you, you’ll have a map by which to navigate a safe course, no matter what kind of difficult behaviour comes your way. Developing a strong, clearly defined boundary, using communication and demeanour as your primary weapons, enables you to enforce your own principles, and implicitly demands of others that they modify their behaviour to match your robust attitude.
By the time you complete these three full-length sessions, repeating them as necessary, you’ll have mastered the three key techniques that will enable you to protect and immunise yourself from the unwanted effects of difficult people. This was never about you, so you have the perfect right to refuse to go along with manipulative, aggressive, or coercive behaviour, no matter where it comes from.
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YOU'LL SUCCEED FASTER with hypnosis
As with all my hypnosis programs, this one will work better and faster if you’re confident going in and out of hypnosis. If you’ve tried hypnosis or hypnotherapy in the past, and feel that it worked for you, you should be fine. If this is your first time, I recommend you complete my two short training recordings (included free in your download package) before you set to work on your new mission.
Hypnosis is progressive, and the more often you do it, the faster, smoother, and deeper it becomes. By conditioning yourself with the training trances, you’ll find the therapeutic effects of the main recordings will be many times more successful.
Each of the three recordings has a short introduction, or pre-amble, following which you’ll begin the hypnosis. The three Toxic - Dealing with Difficult People recordings add up to more than 90 minutes of professional hypnotherapy and training. All of this is easily achieved in the privacy of your own home.
All you have to do is relax!